Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Woah!

Woah! I just came to the blog and noticed AJ is 7 months post-activation.

While I think it is safe to say things have been certifiably insane around here, I thought I should at least check in and let everyone know we're still here. Here's a tiny peek at whats been going on:

PT/OT:
AJ started turning in his left foot again last weekend. It has progressively gotten worse. Along with our his PT, we've decided to continue taping him with Kinesio Tex Gold Tape on a regular basis. He wears the tape wrapped under his foot, up the side of his calf on both feet. He's also wearing the tape in an "upside down V" configuration just above his tush (not pictured). It can be worn for 3-4 days and is water resistant. We've been having him wear his de-rotation straps at home. They are a pain. Let me rephrase...a royal pain in the rumpus. We much prefer the tape. His straps do keep him in great alignment though. We've also seen a whole lot less of AJ standing with out putting pressure on his left foot/leg, which often happens when he's super tight. I have a rough-draft started to the company who makes these straps. Just a few suggestions on how to help them work better, AKA stay on an active child.

We are all convinced he is growing again, and has been since last weekend. He's TIGHT and has no idea where his body is. His eating patterns have changed and his sleeping patterns are varied. His habit and need for oral stimulation has increased dramatically. He's been "biting" or rather pushing his jaw into your shoulder and biting the fabric of your clothes. I've put a new battery in his z-vibe. His PT did craniosacral therapy on him on Monday which helped a bit, but he wasn't really into it as much as he usually is. Something just isn't right. I'm calling it a "system malfunction". So we're going with growing at the moment. His PT reassured me by saying he's still doing fantastically well and that its amazing he can keep walking while he's growing. A lot of CP kiddos get so tight they can't.

He stacked blocks during OT this week, just on a whim. Multiple times. Who is this kid?! He also picked up a block and a shoelace (it was a beading set of blocks & a shoelace to string the block beads) and looked at us as if to say "Now what do I do with them?" School reported that he played with Duplo blocks and nested cups inside each other. His left hand use has been a bit less with this his whole "system malfunction", so I'm finding myself putting his hand brace on more often. It certainly does the job. Someday I'll get a picture of him in it.

Nothing, I mean NOTHING is working to keep this kid from sucking his thumb. It had decreased, quite a bit, until this past week. We've tried EVERYTHING. He's ridiculously smart, knowing he takes 3 licks and the deterent we've put on his thumb is off (ie nail polish remover). I stuck my finger in his mouth and figured out his bottom right gums are swollen. More teething. Fantastic. Perhaps thats another reason he's Super Thumb Sucker these days.

CI: AJ is consistently turning to his name. NEVER THOUGHT I'D SAY THAT. He heard Christmas music at Great-Grandma's house the other day for the first time. That was the first of amazing CI Holiday Moments. He's also ripping his CI off every chance he gets. Its his way of protesting an activity, if he wants something, and its really annoying. He's been doing it at school as well. Yesterday they had to take off the toupee tape I put on in the AM before school and replace it-it had losts its "stick" since he had ripped it off so many times. I have found that the faster I get it back on him and continue talking/redirect his attention, its better. If he's crying and won't stop, I just ignore him until he settles, then he gets my attention. He's responding to novel and environmental sounds much quicker. He heard the dogs back the other day and turned to the door, so he's making that connection. Dogs bark = Doorbell. Guess the dogs are good for something :) We lost our first coil a few weeks ago. A replacement coil request was submitted to insurance, but it takes 30-60 days. Needless to say, I've become a hawk in watching where his implant is when he has it on, since he's wearing the "back-up" coil as his primary now.

Speech/Language: AJ's vocalizations are changing. He's yelling and squealing more, which is a good thing. We've got all kinds of new activities to help him increase his vocalizations. We think he's doing the sign for "eat" and beginning to raise his arms for "Bye-Bye" and "All Done". Its hard to tell. I know that sounds crazy, but with AJ, it is. I need to hit up the dollar store for more small flashlights. We use them for turn-taking vocal play.

School: We've had a busy week with school. We had our monthly "3rd Monday of the Month" home visit from AJ's teacher, AJ's IEP 1st Quarter Review Meeting, and Parent Teacher Conferences. I will cover these meetings in detail in another post.

Feeding/GI: AJ's swallow study was done last week. Talk about cool. We were done in 2 minutes, I swear. The rest of the time was spent reviewing and watching the study. He is NOT aspirating. YAY! We do need to keep certain textures of food small to prevent choking. We will also be rounding out his meals a bit more: A solid, a softer texture, and his liquid. He drinks really fast, which I guess is a trait for kids that have oral motor issues. Its easier to chug. He did do his "head back" thing when he eats, but then he also showed us a few awesome chin tucks while drinking. So we know he can do it. The SLP who conducted the swallow study mentioned that her report would support continued feeding therapy for safety issues. Apparently, when insurance co's look at the report and see safety, its not a problem. So, we should be hearing soon if our PA (Prior-Authorization) came through and then pick back up with feeding therapy.

He's been trying new foods and loving them. He's never liked bread, but suddenly likes to eat PB&J and Ham & Cheese sandwiches. And, obviously, from our previous post, he's drinking out of a straw. :) Oh, and I forgot to mention that she suggested I get trained to do the heimlich maneuver. So, two more things on my to do list, get CPR and heimlich maneuver training.

Photos: I'm taking the external hard drive to Milwaukee PC today. The disc that is retrieving files from the desktop, well its working, just a little too well. its hard to explain. The first scan I did it pulled up over 33,000 files. When am I going to have time to go through 33,000 files? So, I'm still working on it. But hopefully Milwaukee PC can recover them off the external hard drive.

Jeremy: Daddy is busy with work and school. He's excited about his upcoming math course (apparently the class he's taking now is annoying) and his trip to Philly next week. He was on a local radio station last week doing an interview about diabetes. I video'ed some of it off of the laptop, someday I'll get around to posting it. He did an awesome job though!

Heidi: Mommy is busy with AJ. A few other CI Mom's and myself formed a CI Mom Group. Our first meeting/gathering is tonight and I am super excited. I've discovered yoga. Which has discovered many unused muscles in my body but also done wonders for how I'm feeling day to day. I've also become obsessed with Twilight. Yes, I finally joined the bandwagon. So when I'm not thinking of strategies and appointments for AJ, I'm dreaming of beautiful vampires. Its an even trade I think.

Sunny:
Our sweet goofy yellow lab/great dane mix. He's busy eating, sleeping, and parading around with his beloved Handy Manny doll that he stole from AJ's toy bin. I've never seen him covet anything like his Handy Manny. He's such a bird dog. Always something in his mouth. He's also been busy reminding me of why I want a 1) smaller yard 2) a fenced in yard. Last night he came in covered in mud up to his chest-15 minutes before I had to leave the house. I guess he wanted to take a bath and that was his way of telling me.

Rocky: Our loyal german shepherd. He's busy jonesin' to play frisbee outside and jump around like a jackalope. He also enjoys his daily naps, upside-down, spooning the bottom of the chaise. Yep, killer dog. NOT. He thinks pretzels are the best snack ever and if you have some, he should have some too. AJ is his kiddo. He's always checking on him and greeting him with a smooch when we come home. He's also quite attached to my Mom lately. Last night he was seranading her when she walked in the door. Oiy.

Sugar & Marvin: Are cats. They sleep. All the time. End of story.

OH-And the new song? Yeah. The "na na na...its like my ipods stuck on replay" has been in my head for days so I thought I's share it here. Its catchy! Here's a thought, maybe AJ will like it. The na na's could be good for him to hear...





Friday, November 13, 2009

Complaint & Request

Dear Mr. External Hard Drive:

I am writing to you today with severe disappointment. It was suggested that we buy an external hard drive to store our digital photos. Since I have a horrible habit of taking 100 shots, uploading, and not downsizing (even if most of the shots are unusable), our desktop computer was quite full.

I began the painstaking process of opening our photo program on our desktop and sending the files to you, our new External Hard Drive. So shiny and pretty with your flourescent blue lights. I created folders, then folders within folders. Labeling each folder for pictures from 2005 until mid-2008.

I am thankful that life got in the way and I was unable to upload the rest of the photos from mid-2008 until present. Because, you see, YOU CRASHED. STOPPED WORKING. FRIED. LOST ALL MY PHOTOS OF MY PRECIOUS SON, our families, friends, and memories. From the moment we saw his face, to our visits in Guatemala, to his first days and months home. His baptism, his Fiesta, his birthday party, his first holidays here at home. His therapy progress, and so many videos I can't count that high.

How do you have the right to just stop working one day when the whole entire purpose of getting YOU was to protect our photos. Hm? Do you have an answer? No. I am not happy. Not happy at all. I am thankful to have discovered that much of what I transferred from mid-2007 on is still on our desktop computer. WHEW. Thank goodness I wasn't *gasp* productive and deleted those after I transferred them to you and your stupid non-working flourscent blue lights. Thank goodness I found memory cards that I had saved "just in case" from our 2nd visit and pick-up trips to Guatemala.

I am still furious that you have eaten the entire photo file from our first visit to Guatemala, including videos. I am furious I have lost all of the correspondence with our adoption agency, the PDF file of AJ's former website, and even my freakin' Christmas Card Address List.

Our friend AKA computer GURU is coming over shortly. Please, won't you work? At least so we can pull the files and transfer them somewhere else. I realize this may hurt your feelings. I'm sorry to say I don't care. You messed with my memories buddy. Not cool.

Sincerely,

One PO'ed picture-taking Mama
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Dear Desktop Computer:

Our dear friend AKA computer GURU will be arriving shortly. He is going to put a little disc into your tummy. Please read it and follow the directions. Please allow this disc to find and recover every picture and video that was ever in your tummy. This what this disc does, so please be friendly.

Please work faster than your normal dinosaur pace. Pretty please with a jump-stick on top? I must say you are working well so far today.

Sincerely,

One Hopeful picture-taking Mama

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Take that Cerebral Palsy!


On a whim, I decided to have AJ drink his apple juice out of the juicebox today. Meaning, for the first time EVER we were going to attempt a straw. He's played with regular size straws before, including chewing and them and folding them up, etc, but he's never drank out of one.

I was told that drinking from a straw would be extremely difficult for AJ due to his poor oral motor skills. This thanks to his cerebral palsy. I was also told that drinking from a straw is NOT A NEEDED SKILL. I don't care that its not a needed skill. Kids drink from juice boxes. Its just a fact. My kid will drink from a juicebox that has a straw. He will learn to drink from an open cup-successfully. He will learn to drink from bigger straws. When he's in college maybe he'll share one of those mondo margaritas that come with multiple straws with his roomies. He will learn the skill of drinking from a straw. He just will.

AND TODAY, HE DID. At first I let him figure out that I was sticking the straw into his mouth. Then I squeezed the juicebox a bit so he would learn that 1) liquid comes from this thing in my mouth 2) that liquid is my apple juice. After he gave me the cue for "I like this Mom"-which is a cheesy grin-I let it sit in his mouth and waited for him to do something. He sat for a while, thinking it would magically squirt juice into his mouth again. When it did not, he started using his tongue to roll the straw from side to side in his mouth. Then he figured out how to close his lips around the straw. Then he figured out how to suck out the liquid! It was amazing. I'm shocked and uber proud that he was able to do it so well.

By the time I ran to get the camera, he was pretty much done with it. I did manage to snap the picture above, despite that fact that holding a juicebox, camera, and trying to make one eyeball watch your child while the other focus' the camera is rather difficult. While this picture isn't the greatest, (as he's leaning to the left and looks like he's sipping alcohol rather than juice),it is proof that our little man is once again beating the odds before him.

Now if I could just get him to learn not to squeeze the juice box....

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

It's Out!

Toys R Us' Toy Guide for Differently-Abled Kids is OUT! Last year Meredith Viera was the spokesperson. This year, its Whoopi Goldberg. You can check it out HERE.

I learned about this catalog last year and have already been looking forward to this year's catalog.

The catalog is great for all kids-especially since they break the toys into skill catagories: Auditory, Creativity, Fine Motor, Gross Motor, Language, Self Esteen, Social Skills, Tactile, Thinking, and Visual. I like to know what function the toy serves. Imagine that.

I don't think the "Auditory" skill is listed first just because it begins with the letter 'A'. I think they listed it first just for CI families. Yep I do. This year, it warms my heart to be able to look at those types of toys and not let the hole of dark depression and sadness consume me because my child can't hear . Yes he is deaf. He is deaf and can hear. How cool is that.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

AJ CI 6-months Post-Activation

**Disable the music above before watching the video!**

Monday, November 2, 2009

It's The Great Pumpkin, AJ









d/ Benji & Heidi

Last night Jer and I were trying to find a movie to watch On Demand. There isn't a whole lot out at first glance. After watching previews for about a half hour, we stumbled on the movie Love n' Dancing.

The movie stars Amy Smart, Billy Zane, and Caroline Rhea. Or in my language, the girl in Just Friends, Rose's jerk fiance in Titanic, and one of the aunts from Sabrina the Teenage Witch.

It was a great movie! Why?

1) The lead male dances with a HEARING LOSS, which plays a large character in the movie. We thought they did a fantastic job. He's little d (d), meaning he wasn't born deaf, but lost it later in life (teenager). He wears hearing aids but turns them off while dancing, until...:)

2) We love dancing movies. Any kind. Yep, we're suckers.

3) Benji and Heidi from So You Think You Can Dance are in the movie!!!!

Check it Out!

Sunday, October 25, 2009

A Plethora of Cloudiness

So, yeah. I've started multiple posts only to delete them. Unsure of what the title should be (the one above is pretty good, hey?) and unsure of where to start.

PT & CP:
AJ received both his AFOs in the mail two weeks ago. Why they mailed them, I don't know. We soon figured out that they were way to long and needed to be trimmed. AJ currently wears a size 5.5 shoe. The only shoes that would fit with the AFOs on: 9. CLOWN SHOES. We had them trimmed this week so they fit much better. We found some Stride Rite shoes yesterday, which were on sale and a heck of a lot cheaper than the special shoes they make for AFOs. They are a size 7, but aren't much bigger than his old 5.5's. We pulled out the guts AKA the pad your foot sits on inside the shoe. This makes his shoe a tad deeper and helps the AFO fit better. The shoe is very flexible, yet has a good base. I was pretty excited to find them.

He's doing very well in his new AFOs, he'll be wearing them to school for the first time tomorrow, so we'll see how that goes. You can totally tell when he tries to walk by hyperextending his knee. Oops, sorry buddy, not gonna work! His walking in slower and much more controlled. They also make crawling near impossible. Now he's pretty much over crawling (I'd say 95% walking/5% crawling) but this gets us that much closer to 100% walking. If he falls, he gets right back up to continue walking.

His left foot/leg are rotating in A LOT. When we got to PT/OT last week, AJ's left shoe, while walking, was perpindicular to his right foot. His two feet together could have been a perfect backwards "L". Scary. I voiced our concern to AJ's PT, who said she knew it was going to happen eventually. Well, at least she saw it coming. His foot/leg is turning in due to his tone (CP). His left side has been super tight off and on for the last few weeks.

There is nothing we can do as far as exercises go. But, we can help it with the AFOs and the de-rotation straps. Here is a photo of AJ the first day we put him in the straps.

Now, the excess straps are hanging to the left and right because, I'm convinced they gave us the XL child size. Of course, since my child is XS. Anyhow, I've since trimmed them, so there isn't all this excess strapping everywhere. He can wear the straps under his pants, which is great. Although I'm not sure how they are going to work with potty training. Its already a trick to change his pull-up with these monsters on. Can you tell they drive me nuts? The purpose of the straps is to avoid botox and surgery. They are called de-rotation straps as they help keep his feet straight and not turn/rotate in. SO-needless to say, he's wearing them whether Mom likes it or not. His PT will continue to keep an eye on his left foot/leg. Since AJ is already an established patient with his physical medicine doctor (thanks to our PT's early thinking!), we'll be able to get in or get what whatever AJ needs in a timely manner.

His climbing skills has definitely improved. He crawled into the ball pit all on his own at his PT session last week, without using the aide of a smaller step-stool. His PT was very impressed.

OT:
AJ's use of his left hand has dramatically increased, which his OT was very pleased with. He's also created this (annoying) habit of picking up and clutching small items with his hands. He's shifted to using the right hand to clutch, so he's leading with his left hand a lot. During his OT session last week, he reached and pulled out puzzle pieces with his left hand-by choice. If you present three blocks to him (to stack), he will guide your hand or the block itself to stack them. He continues to make gains with container concepts and shape sorting. At OT his placed the circle into the correct slot of the shape sorter!

Feeding:
AJ has made some big gains with eating. His cup drinking has improved here at home, with less and less leakage. Unfortunately, his open cup drinking has gone haywire. I'm not sure what that is all about, but I'm thinking its the consistency. I'm ordering some thickened apple juice (both the nectar and honey consistencies) to use here at home. The honey consistency used to be his "treat" at speech/feeding therapy. he couldn't get enough of it, and it 'slides' slow enough to help him learn flow control. He is loving Lorna Doone shortbread cookie crisps, animal crackers, cold cereal with milk, hard chocolate chip cookies, and anything else he can bite. We've also seen some great tongue lateralization and chewing. His entire tongue was on the right side of his mouth the other day-meaning he was using his left tongue muscles to chew. Amazing. His swallow study is scheduled for mid-November.

School:
AJ continues to make steady gains at school. We had our 2nd home visit from AJ's teacher last week. AJ definitely knows his day. He knows he has to complete an activity to go on to the next. He seems to know just about how long each activity lasts. He is now using an eye gaze/making eye contact with his peers on a regular basis. We were so thrilled to hear this! He crawled through a tunnel with a flashlight with his peers. He has definitely become comfortable and developed curiousity in his environment. One of the other kids left the water running at the sink...AJ saw the water running, walked across the room, climbed up the stepstool and stuck his little paws in the water. :) He's also understanding the concept of "give it to me", when an adult asks for an object. Now, he may not give it to you, but he knows what it means. What kid is really going to give up a toy he wants?

We've also noticed that AJ has a hard time using multiple senses. Meaning, if his eyes and hands are focused on a toy he's playing with, he won't "tune in" to his hearing. This is comming with children with hearing loss (good to know, right?) and isn't something out of the ordinary. We are challenging ourselves to engage AJ in activities that encourage the use of multiple senses. Sabotage plays a big part of our day.

I voiced our concern about AJ's lack of speech sounds. There is more meaning behind this, which I will share in the "CI section". AJ's teacher agreed. Most of his vocalizations are still "technically" cooing and early babble. She shared that AJ may need some tactile cues to help him learn to use his vocal cords/use his voice. She shared a story that calmed me almost instantly. We talked about strategies, such as using a voice light and placing our hands on his neck to encourage him to use his voice. The concept is emerging, as we play a flashlight game that AJ's Birth to 3 TOD taught us. He understand the turn taking now (we vocalize and the flashlight turns on, when we stop, it turns off) to the point where he'll hold it up to his mouth, with random vocalizations I'd say, em, 20% of the time? But he knows he'll hear my voice when he puts it to my mouth. This is a great improvement. We also discussed a picture board. We discussed using it short-term, as a way to help AJ communicate. I'm still mulling that over.

We also discussed his lack of signing. We broke down a handful of signs to figure out how many hand positions were in each. Did you know there are 6 different hand movements to create the word "help"? They've been working on mirror play with AJ at school, using his own image in the mirror, along with photos of Jer and I. Mommy and Daddy are easy hand positions. I swear he signed Mommy the other day here at home, but I'm not sure. The only sign he does is "more"- still. I don't know. And I wish I knew.

All in all it was a great visit. Oh, and I think his teacher now fully understands my addiction to the $1 bins at Target and various other stores. :)

CIs:
If you haven't noticed the ticker at the top, AJ has now been implanted for 6 months! Time flies. I'm working on a video showcasing his skills, which I hope will be done soon. In the meantime....

I am so frustrated, I could spit tacks. How can I say this nicely? We are being met with fierce opposition regarding AJ and a 2nd implant. There is a great white elephant in the room. I'm not sure what kind of progress they want him to make, but clearly what he has done is not enough. I just don't get it. AJ is not the typical CI patient, he's got multiple issues. I get it. When they don't see typical progress, it creates hesitation. Well, stop hesitating! You spent all this time telling us we should have low expectations going into his CI and that he may not talk and blah blah blah. Now he's blowing us all away, and its still not enough?! We are determined, and if that means going to Portland or another region, we might just have to do so. Ugh!

I know that was vague, but it was vague on purpose. Moving on...

AJ is learning conditioned response with the two of the Lings. He interrupted his OT's conversation with dead-on eye contact and vocalizations (he was also signing more intermittently) when she (naturally) stopped swinging him as she was so deep in conversation. She didn't notice he was trying to get her attention, but I DID! When I told her he was trying to get her attention, she stopped, turned to him and asked if he wanted more, he signed more. He knows the difference between people's voices. He made direct eye contact with a complete stranger today. He didn't see her at first, but turned when he heard her voice, and then made eye contact for a good 10-15 seconds while she was talking to him. It was amazing. He's beginning to pay attention to music. He has a real big crush on Beyonce. I don't know what it is with kids and Beyonce!


Family:
AJ's Great Grandma (my Grandma) was diagnosed with lung cancer and cancer in her lymph nodes a little over a week ago. She is my 89-year-old spitfire, sweet as pie and sharp as a nail Grandma. Enter the plethora of cloudiness. Jeremy and I left for an overnight getaway to Madison the night after she was diagnosed. I'll admit it was a little hard to enjoy the Badger game with cancer on my mind. I was so distracted I forgot to take AJ's backpack to school one day (which is SO NOT ME) and continued to function, or should we say try to function in a cloudy state of mind for the rest of the week. We're still in a holding pattern, waiting for more scans, tests, and results before decisions are made. She's busy entertaining the hospital staff and is enjoying her Great Grandma bragging rights, sharing AJ's photo with everyone she sees. That makes me smile :)

Sometimes there is just so much going on, we feel like we can't function or focus. This happens a lot with AJ and his personal agenda, but with my Gram's news, put a fork in me. We've had quiet weekend, which Jer and I were both thankful for. I'll leave you for now, since we are seriously behind on our plethora of DVR'ed medical dramas. Such party animals we are....

Sunday, October 18, 2009

In This Crazy Life, Through These Crazy Times...Its You.

Monday, October 12, 2009

Mom's Little Helper

AJ helped me make Southern Banana Pudding for Daddy....